It seems like my Sexual Market Value (SMV) article has drawn angry feminist fire.
The BFF linked me this, and the worst part was that there are a lot of kids out there who believe this. Kids and adults. And it’s just. WOW. The initial I DON”T WANT when I read it made me want to smash my head against the table, but then I went and got some links to help deconstruct this.
The main two problems with this article is the idea/assumption that alpha and beta males exist. Once that is removed, the article starts to fall apart.
Then consider also the fact that women’s lives apparently, according to this world view, are useless and their lives are basically over at 30? Is bullshit.
There were matriarchal societies before. Very egalitarian. And then even when you consider historically, marriage between couples in general tended to being of the same AGE, not necessarily of the man being 10, 20 years older than the woman. Political marriages are just that, politics- neither male nor female in the equation were marrying for the same reasons the general populace were.
Also consider the fact that society chances a lot faster than evolution. At a point of time, men were consdered intellectual, and far less base than women – ie women were the earthy, wanting sex all the time gender. A woman could divorce a man on grounds of him not pleasing her. now consider the stereotype, usually claimed to be based in biological, evolutionary fact, that men are all about having the sex and women are not.
And again, consider the fact that the IDEA of alpha males came from wolves. Which were studied under captive situations, which resulted in artificial interactions. In the wild, alpha wolves are the BREEDING PAIR, and the rest of the wolves in a pack are the offspring. ‘beta’ wolves dont mate because they are the offspring – they go off and start their own pack.
LOL calm down girl.
My article in no way implies that a female’s life is over at 30. But just her Sexual Market Value (SMV), which is now 40% compared to peak strength at 23. It continues the slide to only 20% at 38, giving males a 5 vs 1 advantage at his peak age.
A beautiful young female can either choose to play the dating game at 23 when she sets the terms, or at 38, when the male sets the terms. To be frank, there are lots of good men out there, but there are lots of hurt men, too. You’ll see. Waiting is never an advantage for the female because males control the long game. The traits which women desire are often found in older men, but the traits men desire are best found in younger women. Come on, do you really expect nature to hand females an advantage at BOTH young and old age?
Everything is just supply and demand. The more desirable a man (or woman) is, the more people chase them. And the more people who chase them, the more options they have. Therefore it is smart for a women to choose when she has the best range of choices (young), and smart for a man to choose in his best year (old). Anyone who wishes to complain how this is “not fair” is missing the point. The sexual marketplace does not care about being fair. It cares about getting laid.
Alpha and beta males do exist (humans are not wolves – a beta human male is not the offspring of an alpha parent – nice try girl). Alphas are men who have “what women want” which is confidence, ambition, drive, and willingness to approach girls. Beta males are basically men who “do not have what women want” and characterized by low confidence, middling ambition, lack of drive, and unwillingness to approach girls. You can argue about “what women want”, but survey after survey shows that women want these things.
So women go for alpha guys, but they settle for beta males, who often make the mistake of playing “nice guys”, unless someone like me teaches them to wise up. Predictably, the response from a feminist is to deny such people are nice at all, but up to something, and full of resentment. Of course they are! Put yourself in the beta man’s shoes (and his shirt and tie). Imagine that you have spent your life kissing the ass of women only for them to pour cold water. Not only was your “niceness” unappreciated, it was a downright liability. Confusion. Didn’t mom tell u to be nice? Why didn’t it work? Anger. Beta males hate women. For doing this to them. For making them beg.
Because beta males don’t really do “violent outburst”, the response of many is to simply withdraw from the Sexual Marketplace and live a life of videogames. I’m serious. The good betas plough themselves into career. Once they have a big salary, surprise, surprise, women are lining up at the door. Why does this happen? Is this because women are superficial? No. It’s because these betas have turned alpha by accident. And thus become desirable to women.
Think about all the things women want. High confidence? Yep, he’s confident – of his big bucks. Ambition? Well, he’s a manager. Drive? Well, getting richer every year. Willing to approach girls? Still not there, but guess what? Girls approach him and this works too.
An alpha male is a guy who can land females without actually having the hallmarks of success, and they do this by simply displaying the potential to be very very successful in the future (older alphas are successful but they’re usually taken – “all the best men are married”). Females respond to cues that this person is going to be a great leader someday, and alpha players score girls by pretending to have those cues. (Not pretending, because alpha players are quite ambitious – but only in the bedroom.) An alpha male has greater “batting average” than the beta, simply because he can operate in the 15-30 window. He is the rare kind of person which is able to succeed in a hostile environment.
“Alpha” females can survive very very long past the 30 window that closes for women in general. Yet the traits that define an alpha male – confidence, leadership, initiative – are simply not what men want in females. Males want sweet and caring women, not necessarily submissive, but sweet and caring, y’know? They also want someone beautiful, and this instinct is genetic. Genetic, meaning it overrides logic. A man does not choose to like beautiful women, just like gay men do not choose to like other men. So an “alpha” female is the kind of person feminists hate being. Not that this undermines the feminist right to choice. By all means, go ahead and be yourself.
Men have the right to choice too, so they have the right to reject feminist girls and pick sweet, caring, beautiful yet intelligent girls. True story, and it’s harsh, but plenty of feminists get married anyway, because they have learnt to accommodate male desires without compromising their core identity. (You can google it – it’s called a win-win solution.)
Feminism does not mean you auto-lose the dating game. You can only do that by stretching your luck past the female SMV Peak, and entering male-dominant territory in the 30s and 40s (God forbid – the 50s). In fact I encourage strong, feminist women to marry in their 20s, just like I encourage any type of women to take advantage of their youth and convert it to lifetime monogamy. If you had always wanted to be single, then go ahead and be single for life. But if you want to get married at all, then it only makes sense to cash in when your SMV is highest. Because you don’t want to be ambivalent, unsure what you want. (The ball is here? Great, i’ll erect a goalpost around it.) No, think of what you want – then go out and get it done. This applies to both males and females.
In the end, SMV is about logic, and upending the conventional wisdom that time always helps you out. Sorry, nope. Time is not your friend. Time is your enemy. Peace out.